I'm not sure what was decided this evening. It was offered to me that if I gave an acceptable explanation of a statement that no one on the session thought was an expression of potential violence, that they might speak to me tonight at the session meeting. To be honest, I didn't think that was really going to happen, no matter what I said. The sequence of mealy mouthed statements was far to long.
We don't think you meant anything by it.
Someone else did.
We would like an explanation of what you said because though we don't think you meant anything about it we want to be sure.
(Explanation)
That's pretty much what we thought, we might invite you to the session meeting, stay out of church, we've called the police, we know you didn't mean anything by it, but it serves our purposes to keep you out of church indefinitely until we do whatever.
In the meantime I have filed a complaint with "
Peacemaker Ministries" to have Dr. Andrew Selle, the session point man and elder who has been dealing with me "decertified" as a "Christian Conciliator." If you've read Ken Sande's book, "
The Peacemaker" (you can download one chapter for FREE!), you would not recognize any of the Biblically based conciliation techniques in anything the session has done. I filed a formal "Form B" complaint about Dr. Selle, declaring that he had been the obstruction, not the bridge to peace as it were, and it will take them a few weeks to come up with a result to the investigation. Supposedly I will be interviewed, and so will Dr. Selle. Frankly I think they'll "Stand By Their Man."
That leaves me with several steps after that to take, or not take. I'm inclined to take them all and play them all out. Mind you I don't think I'm going to win, I think they must are stations on the journey where you get your card punched to say "Been there, Did that."
One is to take the matter from Session to Presbytery. Presbyterian churches don't provide for autocratic local action that can't be appealed, but there is a lot of dispute about whether or not you can appeal not becoming a member. A lot of church elders say yes, others say no, you have to be a member to have standing before the session, hence, part of my desire to become a member, it gives you an official voice in the denomination. From Presbytery, I can appeal it to the General Assembly, assuming I get past the session, or maybe I can appeal the fact that the session would not hear me, to the General Assembly.
The other action is that I can become vastly more active as a lobbyist in the cause of legalization. I know that many of you don't see a value in that. The fact is that only the Tax Man cares whether or not I'm legally married, everyone else takes my word for it. For all they know I'm not legally married, even though I am. It would take a claim that I am not with someone who had standing to ask, a demand for me to produce my bona fides and then I'd have to point to the county where I registered my marriage, or maybe the state. I stress that no one has ever asked for proof, not even the Social Security office. Why digress? The point is that if Polygamy is LEGAL, you DON'T HAVE TO legally register your polygamy. I repeatedly refer to YFZ to remind everyone that as long as it is illegal, harassment will follow you everywhere or you'll have to hide and frankly, as big a proponent of polygyny as I am, the Gospel is far more important, and if polygyny becomes a thing I have to hide to the detriment of the Gospel, I really ought not be polygynous.
I don't believe that legislation will pass, an attempt to legalize polygyny will probably be successful in the form of a court case. I strongly believe that Vermont and New Hampshire (and shortly Washington DC) are the best places to set up a test case. All have laws passed by duly elected bodies that have legalized Same Sex Marriage. Structurally the reasoning behind Same Sex Marriage lends itself to legalizing polygamy. The rational is that a lifestyle choice or predilection should enjoy the protections of marriage and to NOT allow those protections is a form of discrimination. If you accept, for the sake of argument that Gays are "wired that way" and so "deserve" to be married if they want to, can we not argue
legally the same thing in court? I am
inclined to be this way, it is my
nature and so I should be afforded the same protections as monogamous heterosexuals and monogamous homosexuals? Indeed, someone will argue that they are "bisexual" and when they do, they will have every bit as much reason to be allowed marriage, as a gay. It's been done in the Netherlands already. Thus a court case involving me, or someone else who wants to take two brides, or an additional one (or two) stands a very good chance of succeeding. Indeed, we really OUGHT to be trying to do this since a "polyamorous" group will try and the resulting decision from the court will be built on that groundwork. I don't think that will help us to have polygyny suddenly legal in a framework created by the orgy crowd.
Beyond the legalization imperative (IMHO) there is the need for a denomination that accepts polygyny, and that also may be a move I make. Martin Luther left the Roman Catholic Church on a rail. We all owe the religious freedom we have in this country to things ML did 500 years ago. I would be to a degree, like Luther, if I am formally and finally and irrevocably cast out of church. I would be on my own, and could start another denomination. I would have done my due diligence, and be free of them, and could go on.
Call me a man of little faith though, I just think I"ll be going through the motions again. I'd really like to do something other than practice swings.