Video: How Women Disrespect Men Without Realizing It

[FatherRuleMemes]

I found these videos helpful by putting into words the things I have felt but didn't know how to express. The guy is not coming from a biblical perspective and his closing remarks in the second video are clearly anti-hierarchical, but the rest is a great explanation.

Part 1

Part 2

 

[MeganC]

If a man wants me to respect him then he must be worthy of my respect.

Offering my respect to someone who I do not consider worthy of respect would be an act of deception and falsehood.

Therefore my requirement that a man must be worthy of my respect is a consequence of my desire to be a woman of character.

 

[FatherRuleMemes]

If a man wants me to respect him then he must be worthy of my respect.

Offering my respect to someone who I do not consider worthy of respect would be an act of deception and falsehood.

Therefore my requirement that a man must be worthy of my respect is a consequence of my desire to be a woman of character.

Literally in the first minute of the first video he points out disrespecting and not respecting aren't the same thing.

 

[FatherRuleMemes]

I would also like to point out this is in regards to men and women already in a relationship. Not men generally. I think we have crossed swords before because of a misunderstanding about who is entitled to respect.

 

[Rainy Day]

Most of his points can be easily summarized by simply stating that a woman should not hen-peck her husband.

I dislike the title, as I feel like it is click-bait for men who are looking to criticise women in a way that is becoming very popular, and honestly is jarring. His points themselves aren't too bad, if not taken to odd extremes or in accusations and as a restraint against your wife. He just wants privacy and to not be cross-examined. Which is normal. (However of course, if someone has a big problem like affairs and a porn addiction, the wife should be privy to that information as it is breaking the commandments of God and it's not fair to keep her trapped in that type of relationship. Same if the wife was having an affair, the husband should know.)
His point of teasing is weird to me, unless he is only saying to not make backhanded comments towards your husband, especially in front of people. But if he is talking about the normal relationship of teasing each other, because it might make the husband look "lower" than the wife, then I take it he personally is one of those guys who dislikes joking around and sarcasm in general. But for a lot of people it works fine.

 

[MeganC]

Literally in the first minute of the first video he points out disrespecting and not respecting aren't the same thing.

A man who is worthy of respect will not put up with nor invite disrespect.

Seriously, while I agree that women have critical obligations in a relationship and in society I am still endlessly amazed at the impotent and weak men who have to resort to nonsense like saying, "The Bible says I'm a man!", in order to get people to respect or defer to them.

If you or anyone else has to tell me you're a man because it's not immediately apparent then that's a you-problem and not a me-problem.

This is the same thing as the leftists with their pronoun game. They tell you what pronouns to use (he/she/it) and you're supposed to go along with this nonsense because it isn't obvious what some of these deviants are.

A real man does not need me or anyone else to validate him as a man. He knows this and he asserts his manhood with a confidence that is immediately apparent to everyone who meets him.

Males who have to resort to citing someone else's authority to assert a claimed authority of their own are detestable and contemptible because they have no authority of their own. They are simps.

Citing someone else's authority will not make you a man. Never. Be it the Bible or whatever you're just riding on someone else's coattails.

You want respect? Then be a man.

Being a man will make you a man.

Being a man is the source of your authority as a man.

Being a man will naturally cause people to respect you, especially your wife and family.

God created you to be a man. So be a man and stop whining because everyone around you laughs at you.

 

[The Revolting Man]

A man who is worthy of respect will not put up with nor invite disrespect.

Seriously, while I agree that women have critical obligations in a relationship and in society I am still endlessly amazed at the impotent and weak men who have to resort to nonsense like saying, "The Bible says I'm a man!", in order to get people to respect or defer to them.

If you or anyone else has to tell me you're a man because it's not immediately apparent then that's a you-problem and not a me-problem.

This is the same thing as the leftists with their pronoun game. They tell you what pronouns to use (he/she/it) and you're supposed to go along with this nonsense because it isn't obvious what some of these deviants are.

A real man does not need me or anyone else to validate him as a man. He knows this and he asserts his manhood with a confidence that is immediately apparent to everyone who meets him.

Males who have to resort to citing someone else's authority to assert a claimed authority of their own are detestable and contemptible because they have no authority of their own. They are simps.

Citing someone else's authority will not make you a man. Never. Be it the Bible or whatever you're just riding on someone else's coattails.

You want respect? Then be a man.

Being a man will make you a man.

Being a man is the source of your authority as a man.

Being a man will naturally cause people to respect you, especially your wife and family.

God created you to be a man. So be a man and stop whining because everyone around you laughs at you.

There are some hard truths in this but they are truths. Your masculinity is acknowledged by other men but it is asserted by the man himself.

Some men have to accept that their place in the male hierarchy is not as high as they would like. Using scripture to try and being all men to the same level is one of the motivations of the monogamy only lie. Attracting women is one of the signifiers of higher masculine ranking. If no one can have more than one legitimately then they can’t legitimately display the most obvious marker of higher masculinity; multiple legitimated women.

The desire to have masculinity to be level and solely based on scripture is to give lesser developed masculinities a competitive advantage in what should be a fairly unregulated contact sport; male sorting.

 

[steve]

It is a sad fact that a man cannot have more authority than his wife will allow/recognize.
Yes, we all know about the inadequate man that is unable to earn the respect/authority that should go with his position. But there are situations when a woman chooses to believe that he doesn’t have the right to have it, by her calculations.
It is true, he cannot insist on it nor get it authorized anywhere else.

 

[MeganC]

It is a sad fact that a man cannot have more authority than his wife will allow/recognize.
Yes, we all know about the inadequate man that is unable to earn the respect/authority that should go with his position. But there are situations when a woman chooses to believe that he doesn’t have the right to have it, by her calculations.
It is true, he cannot insist on it nor get it authorized anywhere else.

You start by having and exercising authority over yourself.

Are you disciplined in your life? Do you exercise? Do you take time for Bible study on your own? Do you maintain things around the house and around your life? You control these things.

Now assert your authority over yourself.

I don't know if you fish but go fishing sometime. By yourself. If your wife objects then kiss her on the cheek and tell what time to expect you back and then come back at that time.

If she's angry at you and won't talk to you then enjoy the silence.

One of Steve's all time classic lines was to get the silent treatment from Shari and when he didn't beg for attention she went to him to ask if this didn't bother him.

He calmly said, "If by being silent you think you're punishing me then you're wrong."

Me, I loved it.

Granted Shari divorced him but mostly for her own reasons. The rest of us respected him for not putting up with needless chick drama.

Steve was not perfect but he was definitely the Master of Himself and we all knew it.