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Video: How Women Disrespect Men Without Realizing It

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I found these videos helpful by putting into words the things I have felt but didn't know how to express. The guy is not coming from a biblical perspective and his closing remarks in the second video are clearly anti-hierarchical, but the rest is a great explanation.

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If a man wants me to respect him then he must be worthy of my respect.

Offering my respect to someone who I do not consider worthy of respect would be an act of deception and falsehood.

Therefore my requirement that a man must be worthy of my respect is a consequence of my desire to be a woman of character.
 
If a man wants me to respect him then he must be worthy of my respect.

Offering my respect to someone who I do not consider worthy of respect would be an act of deception and falsehood.

Therefore my requirement that a man must be worthy of my respect is a consequence of my desire to be a woman of character.
Literally in the first minute of the first video he points out disrespecting and not respecting aren't the same thing.
 
I would also like to point out this is in regards to men and women already in a relationship. Not men generally. I think we have crossed swords before because of a misunderstanding about who is entitled to respect.
 
Most of his points can be easily summarized by simply stating that a woman should not hen-peck her husband.

I dislike the title, as I feel like it is click-bait for men who are looking to criticise women in a way that is becoming very popular, and honestly is jarring. His points themselves aren't too bad, if not taken to odd extremes or in accusations and as a restraint against your wife. He just wants privacy and to not be cross-examined. Which is normal. (However of course, if someone has a big problem like affairs and a porn addiction, the wife should be privy to that information as it is breaking the commandments of God and it's not fair to keep her trapped in that type of relationship. Same if the wife was having an affair, the husband should know.)
His point of teasing is weird to me, unless he is only saying to not make backhanded comments towards your husband, especially in front of people. But if he is talking about the normal relationship of teasing each other, because it might make the husband look "lower" than the wife, then I take it he personally is one of those guys who dislikes joking around and sarcasm in general. But for a lot of people it works fine.
 
Literally in the first minute of the first video he points out disrespecting and not respecting aren't the same thing.

A man who is worthy of respect will not put up with nor invite disrespect.

Seriously, while I agree that women have critical obligations in a relationship and in society I am still endlessly amazed at the impotent and weak men who have to resort to nonsense like saying, "The Bible says I'm a man!", in order to get people to respect or defer to them.

If you or anyone else has to tell me you're a man because it's not immediately apparent then that's a you-problem and not a me-problem.

This is the same thing as the leftists with their pronoun game. They tell you what pronouns to use (he/she/it) and you're supposed to go along with this nonsense because it isn't obvious what some of these deviants are.

A real man
does not need me or anyone else to validate him as a man. He knows this and he asserts his manhood with a confidence that is immediately apparent to everyone who meets him.

Males who have to resort to citing someone else's authority to assert a claimed authority of their own are detestable and contemptible because they have no authority of their own. They are simps.

Citing someone else's authority will not make you a man. Never. Be it the Bible or whatever you're just riding on someone else's coattails.

You want respect? Then be a man.

Being a man will make you a man.

Being a man is the source of your authority as a man.

Being a man will naturally cause people to respect you, especially your wife and family.

God created you to be a man. So be a man and stop whining because everyone around you laughs at you.
 
A man who is worthy of respect will not put up with nor invite disrespect.

Seriously, while I agree that women have critical obligations in a relationship and in society I am still endlessly amazed at the impotent and weak men who have to resort to nonsense like saying, "The Bible says I'm a man!", in order to get people to respect or defer to them.

If you or anyone else has to tell me you're a man because it's not immediately apparent then that's a you-problem and not a me-problem.

This is the same thing as the leftists with their pronoun game. They tell you what pronouns to use (he/she/it) and you're supposed to go along with this nonsense because it isn't obvious what some of these deviants are.

A real man
does not need me or anyone else to validate him as a man. He knows this and he asserts his manhood with a confidence that is immediately apparent to everyone who meets him.

Males who have to resort to citing someone else's authority to assert a claimed authority of their own are detestable and contemptible because they have no authority of their own. They are simps.

Citing someone else's authority will not make you a man. Never. Be it the Bible or whatever you're just riding on someone else's coattails.

You want respect? Then be a man.

Being a man will make you a man.

Being a man is the source of your authority as a man.

Being a man will naturally cause people to respect you, especially your wife and family.

God created you to be a man. So be a man and stop whining because everyone around you laughs at you.
There are some hard truths in this but they are truths. Your masculinity is acknowledged by other men but it is asserted by the man himself.

Some men have to accept that their place in the male hierarchy is not as high as they would like. Using scripture to try and being all men to the same level is one of the motivations of the monogamy only lie. Attracting women is one of the signifiers of higher masculine ranking. If no one can have more than one legitimately then they can’t legitimately display the most obvious marker of higher masculinity; multiple legitimated women.

The desire to have masculinity to be level and solely based on scripture is to give lesser developed masculinities a competitive advantage in what should be a fairly unregulated contact sport; male sorting.
 
It is a sad fact that a man cannot have more authority than his wife will allow/recognize.
Yes, we all know about the inadequate man that is unable to earn the respect/authority that should go with his position. But there are situations when a woman chooses to believe that he doesn’t have the right to have it, by her calculations.
It is true, he cannot insist on it nor get it authorized anywhere else.
 
It is a sad fact that a man cannot have more authority than his wife will allow/recognize.
Yes, we all know about the inadequate man that is unable to earn the respect/authority that should go with his position. But there are situations when a woman chooses to believe that he doesn’t have the right to have it, by her calculations.
It is true, he cannot insist on it nor get it authorized anywhere else.

You start by having and exercising authority over yourself.

Are you disciplined in your life? Do you exercise? Do you take time for Bible study on your own? Do you maintain things around the house and around your life? You control these things.

Now assert your authority over yourself.

I don't know if you fish but go fishing sometime. By yourself. If your wife objects then kiss her on the cheek and tell what time to expect you back and then come back at that time.

If she's angry at you and won't talk to you then enjoy the silence.

One of Steve's all time classic lines was to get the silent treatment from Shari and when he didn't beg for attention she went to him to ask if this didn't bother him.

He calmly said, "If by being silent you think you're punishing me then you're wrong."

Me, I loved it. :)

Granted Shari divorced him but mostly for her own reasons. The rest of us respected him for not putting up with needless chick drama.

Steve was not perfect but he was definitely the Master of Himself and we all knew it.
 
Males who have to resort to citing someone else's authority to assert a claimed authority of their own are detestable and contemptible because they have no authority of their own. They are simps.
Jesus is a simp because he told his disciples he was given authority?
Matthew 28:18 NASB95 — And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth.

All authority comes from God. A great example was David respecting Solomon as God's anointed even as he was being hunted by him. He showed disrespect by cutting his cloak and was racked with guilt over it.

If "being a man" is all that was needed, then we wouldn't need Eph. 5:22-33. All Paul had to do was tell men to be better men. 1 Peter 3 is also completely superfluous.

The Proverbs about contentious wives should actually be about the failures of the husband. He just wasn't man enough.

On the other hand, maybe a husband who can show his wife how she is sinning by being disrespectful is a good thing? Maybe it is how he is meant to lead with the authority given to him by God. Maybe a video that puts into words the man lacks his thoughts is a helpful tool in leading his wife.
 
I don't think that simply saying that the bible gives men leadership over their wives is wrong. We live in a day where that assertion is perceived as insane and inane. So a man, showing his wife that this is what the bible says, and them learning how to implement that is not being a simp. It's natural, since it's such a far-fetched idea from our current civilization in the first place.
Wimpy, whining, wicked men who try to assert their rule by the bible though are simps. These men usually have serious problems and addictions though and merely want to control women. Sadly, this second group has become the majority of men, christian and otherwise.
But a good man who is gentle and wants to reason things out, is still manly in my mind, more so than the man who can build a cabin and wield an axe but is an ass.
On the other hand, maybe a husband who can show his wife how she is sinning by being disrespectful is a good thing? Maybe it is how he is meant to lead with the authority given to him by God. Maybe a video that puts into words the man lacks his thoughts is a helpful tool in leading his wife.
Hen-pecking is wrong and can ruin relationships, but saying that being "disrespectful" is a sin sounds off.
I mean what we count as respect varies so wildly from culture, race, etc. That rather than being enlightening its confusing.

For instance everywhere I grew up calling someone "Ma'am" was an insult. A serious insult, only military kids got a pass to use it. Well, I moved to the south and every time I hear someone call me "Ma'am," oooh it boils my blood and sends shivers up my spine although I know that some of them consider it respectful. (Though often I do wonder. It feels like a backhanded insult same as "bless your heart.") Anyway that is something, that while living here, I just have to grit and bear with, and not take it as they are calling me a matronly old hag.

Maybe, in part, the root of the problem is that a lot of women marry for the status of being married rather than because they love and respect the man already.

All in all, I do think it is important to respect your husband, however, there are some men, who my friends have married that are just undeserving of respect. They are gross men who I feel like trapped my friends. So if you have a good man, or a man who is generally trying to be good, I think it highly is important and valuable to respect your spouse even if you have to work to do it. But if you have been led into a trap, it's still important to try to be a good wife and a good person, but the situation itself is different.
 
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Jesus is a simp because he told his disciples he was given authority?
Matthew 28:18 NASB95 — And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth.

All authority comes from God. A great example was David respecting Solomon as God's anointed even as he was being hunted by him. He showed disrespect by cutting his cloak and was racked with guilt over it.

If "being a man" is all that was needed, then we wouldn't need Eph. 5:22-33. All Paul had to do was tell men to be better men. 1 Peter 3 is also completely superfluous.

The Proverbs about contentious wives should actually be about the failures of the husband. He just wasn't man enough.

On the other hand, maybe a husband who can show his wife how she is sinning by being disrespectful is a good thing? Maybe it is how he is meant to lead with the authority given to him by God. Maybe a video that puts into words the man lacks his thoughts is a helpful tool in leading his wife.
You’re missing the point, when we go to our women with scripture and say; “See?See? I should be in charge!” We’re asking the woman to validate and authorize our authority. Christ draws His authority from His nature, not from the church’s acknowledgment of His nature.

Obviously women can fail at being good women and we should be training them at what that looks like, but you will get farther with that project the better man you are.
 
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