I don't think that simply saying that the bible gives men leadership over their wives is wrong. We live in a day where that assertion is perceived as insane and inane. So a man, showing his wife that this is what the bible says, and them learning how to implement that is not being a simp. It's natural, since it's such a far-fetched idea from our current civilization in the first place.
Wimpy, whining, wicked men who try to assert their rule by the bible though are simps. These men usually have serious problems and addictions though and merely want to control women. Sadly, this second group has become the majority of men, christian and otherwise.
But a good man who is gentle and wants to reason things out, is still manly in my mind, more so than the man who can build a cabin and wield an axe but is an ass.
On the other hand, maybe a husband who can show his wife how she is sinning by being disrespectful is a good thing? Maybe it is how he is meant to lead with the authority given to him by God. Maybe a video that puts into words the man lacks his thoughts is a helpful tool in leading his wife.
Hen-pecking is wrong and can ruin relationships, but saying that being "disrespectful" is a sin sounds off.
I mean what we count as respect varies so wildly from culture, race, etc. That rather than being enlightening its confusing.
For instance everywhere I grew up calling someone "Ma'am" was an insult. A serious insult, only military kids got a pass to use it. Well, I moved to the south and every time I hear someone call me "Ma'am," oooh it boils my blood and sends shivers up my spine although I know that some of them consider it respectful. (Though often I do wonder. It feels like a backhanded insult same as "bless your heart.") Anyway that is something, that while living here, I just have to grit and bear with, and not take it as they are calling me a matronly old hag.
Maybe, in part, the root of the problem is that a lot of women marry for the status of being married rather than because they love and respect the man already.
All in all, I do think it is important to respect your husband, however, there are some men, who my friends have married that are just undeserving of respect. They are gross men who I feel like trapped my friends. So if you have a good man, or a man who is generally trying to be good, I think it highly is important and valuable to respect your spouse even if you have to work to do it. But if you have been led into a trap, it's still important to try to be a good wife and a good person, but the situation itself is different.