It's not easy being single. male or female! Oh, maybe that isn't exactly true. It may be easy, but it sure isn't fun. How about that!
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Being single sure is lonely at times. I don’t know how to meet people. Joined a few dating sights with little interest from either myself or another.
So here is my profile…. Maybe someone can help me polish it.
Hey there! I’m a spirited Messianic Jewish woman who loves Torah and thrives on off-grid living. My dream life? Building a cob / hyperadobe home, preserving food like a pro, and raising all the animals—sheep, goats, chickens, and meat cows. Tending the garden? Yep, that’s my happy place. I’m also all about the biblical 7th year of rest, because hey, even the land deserves a Sabbath (and let’s be honest, so do I). Now, if you’re a single Messianic man who shares this faith and lifestyle, we could be the ultimate homesteading power duo. Bonus points if you can milk a goat while quoting Torah—because that’s pretty much my love language.
The Fine Print: I’m looking for a Messianic man (he/him) who’s biologically male, values honesty and integrity, and is just as passionate about faith and the simple life as I am. If you think you fit the bill, let’s see if we can plant the seeds for something amazing! I am a mother and grandmother a big family is a plus!
So here is my profile…. Maybe someone can help me polish it.
Hey there! I’m a spirited Messianic Jewish woman who loves Torah and thrives on off-grid living. My dream life? Building a cob / hyperadobe home, preserving food like a pro, and raising all the animals—sheep, goats, chickens, and meat cows. Tending the garden? Yep, that’s my happy place. I’m also all about the biblical 7th year of rest, because hey, even the land deserves a Sabbath (and let’s be honest, so do I). Now, if you’re a single Messianic man who shares this faith and lifestyle, we could be the ultimate homesteading power duo. Bonus points if you can milk a goat while quoting Torah—because that’s pretty much my love language.
The Fine Print: I’m looking for a Messianic man (he/him) who’s biologically male, values honesty and integrity, and is just as passionate about faith and the simple life as I am. If you think you fit the bill, let’s see if we can plant the seeds for something amazing! I am a mother and grandmother a big family is a plus!
Why single? (Some of us have already proven we can live EXACTLY that lifestyle, but understand the value of help-meets, plural...)
this was on a website that isn't for polygyny. I have another post for modernpolygamy.com if that makes sense. I just tweaked it from single to single man or family.
this is a revised post.
Hey there! I’m a spirited Messianic Jewish woman who loves Torah and thrives on off-grid living. My dream life? Building a cob and hyperadobe home, preserving food like a pro, and raising all the animals—sheep, goats, chickens, and meat cows. Tending the garden with a family. Yep, that’s my happy place. I’m also all about the biblical 7th year of rest, because hey, even the land deserves a Sabbath (and let’s be honest, so do I). Now, if you’re a single Messianic man or couple who shares this faith and lifestyle, we could be the ultimate homesteading powerhouse. Bonus points if you can milk a goat while quoting Torah—because that’s pretty much my love language lol JK. The Fine Print: I’m looking for a Messianic man (he/him) who values honesty and integrity, and is just as passionate about faith and the simple life as I am. If you think you fit the bill, let’s see if we can plant the seeds for something amazing! I am a mother and grandmother a big family is a plus!
I see a lot of people looking for a sex partner for the two of them, I am just not really into that. I won't sleep with a woman and I don't feel comfortable with a family who does.
I have learned so much about living according to Torah since I have been in this forum. not just because of the heated debates that happen here but because I truly wanted to be spiritually yoked and I needed to understand what the scriptures said on the matter. I don't like to debate, so I made myself scares and got involved with the Messianic community in my area and started searching out the bible. I have armed myself not to fight but to love. I just don't know if what I need is out there.
I pray you find what you are seeking....
Thank you
So… any pointers? Suggestions I am just getting glossed over. I don’t want to settle but I don’t want to come across unapproachable either. There used to be some “big brother” types on here are they all gone?
I am new around here but there are those that have been walking this out for years.... Maybe they have pointers for you??
@julieb it would be nice to have a retreat specifically for single persons who support Poly. It could be about the life and responsibilities of a “second” (third, fourth etc) and for single men who are just coming to the understanding that it is Biblical. A smaller group more intimate and of course not to take away from the bigger family retreats. Is that something that has ever been talked about?
What is settling?
Settling is maybe accepting less than like I’m not gonna compromise on my faith so if I were to accept somebody in my life that is does not share the same value system that would be settling
I totally agree it would definitely be a good thing to have more support for single ladies and men over all on this Bible truth. As for a retreat, it is more about logistics than desire. We have few singles come to our regular retreats, unfortunately, so it would seem that few would come to a retreat even designated for singles.
I have always thought that building relationships with different plural minded families is the best way to gain insight about what kind of family a single lady would desire or what kind of family a single man would like to establish. I understand it must sometimes come with the feeling of being a "third wheel" but I think pushing past that with a family that you admire could bring many good things. Of course this is from my perspective so I am open to understanding more about the issue.
That is a good idea, if we built a singles ministry we nigh get singles to minister to.
Patricia C, here you are a single and looking female and I am a single and looking man. But I am without apology a born again, blood bought, baptized baptist, and we sure believe differently. I too am on ModernPolygamy and it doesn't look like I'll ever find anyone because either they don't like my doctrine, or I don't like theirs or more likely - it doesn't appear that most of them don't have any doctrine (in other words, don't have the essential faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.) It is not, that I am unwilling to lead someone to Christ, but I wouldn't marry anyone who is not a true believer. They don't have to understand eschatology as do I, or even that they understand the sovereign works of God, but they must understand that once they were lost, and now they are found by faith in Jesus Christ. I can, by simple Bible teaching correct any misunderstandings in Scripture in the weeks and months and years after becoming one flesh. I am sure there are many on this site who are in full agreement with you and I do hope you are successful in your search. I suspect your success will come sooner than mine since I am getting to be an old man.
Pastor Larry, I thought I saw you on there and you are right. There are a lot of people looking for things that neither of us would accept. It is hard and having someone to share life with would be wonderful compromising our faith and Love for the Holy One is all that matters… ultimately. He can be a great companion I know because I am now 9 or 10 years single. I have lost count. lol I don’t allow myself to get caught up in emotion and toss caution in the wind. I wait on Him and trust in him (isn’t that a song?) I am I am confident that Jesus our messiah has heard our pleads. I believe that He is preparing my groom just as He is preparing me to be his bride. You have great insight and wisdom to impart in the lives you minister to. I hope you allow that to occupy your mind while you wait. I do good most days but when I start thinking about the desires of my heart I feel as though I have to run ahead of God . Bahahaha that usually doesn’t work out well. We single people can be a source of encouragement to one another when we feel weak and ready to fly the coup and do it our own way we can remind each other why we can’t give in. I am sorry you feel like you are getting to be an old man. You are wise not old and there is value in wisdom!
What I have observed over the 6 going on 7 years is many would like a second or third wife. I have not seen it happen successfully very often. Why is that? Is it because there is to much world in the woman? Because she is too liberated? Because she has been broken from life? Is it because she is so desperate to find love that she accepts the first man to ask. What about men, do the single men want more than one wife so badly that they don’t take the time to get to know her, they don’t seek His face in the decisions. Do they want to prove they are a man of worth my marrying as man as possible before learning how to take care of the first one. Sometimes they need to learn to be a godly man before ever having the first one.
When I first met the BibFam group a few ladies accused me of Family hoping. I was hurt and bewildered by this statement. My initial experience was that I was a single woman learning about this new understanding of what a Biblical marriage was. When the men who were looking to add on to their family found out a single woman was at the camp there were many who wanted to talk to me. I was overwhelmed to say the least. I didn’t and at times still don’t know if I talk to someone even just saying Hi, is that marking me as off limits from any man talking to me? Does it make me appear as a tease or flirt? I had a woman ask me why I wanted to have another woman’s husband and one who actually called me a home wrecker! And that was at a family retreat. I don’t share this to shed bad light on a great retreat. This way of life is not the way of western culture and women are not taught the Biblical values of being a godly wife in their father’s homes. We are taught that we have to do and be all. We are taught that patriarchy is abusive and demeaning to women. Many men are taught they must exert power and control over their wife to bend her to their will. Those are ALL false teachings the world has taught us. If we want happy healthy families we need to teach the single people how to be the way God created us to be. So they can join a family and build happy Biblical Marriages.
I would love to help with this if you deem me worthy. I think that there are many in this group that could teach a subject or two. Train them up in the way…. Proverbs 22:6 we have to be instructed. I hope this helps shed light on some of what a single woman and some single men may need a little something extra.
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I wonder who is more malleable a single Christian woman or a single woman who is not Christian. If a single guy is burning with a passion perhaps he may be better off marrying a unbeliever.
I am not convinced that the passage is intended to restrict marriage "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"
In the light of the following passage there is a possibility that a Christian man could take an unbelieving woman he deems attractive to be his wife, ,"When you go forth to war against your enemies, and the Lord your God has delivered them into your hands, and you have taken them captive, and you see among the captives a beautiful woman, and have a desire for her to have her as your wife,"
For a single man it is a matter of wisdom, difference between better and best. best being Christian woman and better being a non believing woman.
If a Christian man seduces a unbelieving virgin remedy is not to abandon her just because she is not a Christian. I think. Obligation still stands.
I am not convinced that the passage is intended to restrict marriage "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? What communion has light with darkness?"
In the light of the following passage there is a possibility that a Christian man could take an unbelieving woman he deems attractive to be his wife, ,"When you go forth to war against your enemies, and the Lord your God has delivered them into your hands, and you have taken them captive, and you see among the captives a beautiful woman, and have a desire for her to have her as your wife,"
For a single man it is a matter of wisdom, difference between better and best. best being Christian woman and better being a non believing woman.
If a Christian man seduces a unbelieving virgin remedy is not to abandon her just because she is not a Christian. I think. Obligation still stands.
That is not an unreasonable position.
Even in the Christian community it is pretty much a guarantee that a woman’s beliefs will not line up 100% with the beliefs that a man has.
There are only 3 possible outcomes.
1) The man caves and changes his beliefs to match hers.
2) They agree to disagree and she retains her own beliefs.
3) She lays her beliefs aside and accepts re-training into the man’s beliefs.
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This is a risky mind set in my opinion, so much foundation must be laid to have a non-believer become a believer, and then become a woman who will see the truth in Patriarchy. I do understand that the second part still has to be done with almost every woman living in this society anyways but it seems better to start with a basic foundation of belief in God Almighty to build on, even if some of the foundation has to be dug up and replaced with Biblical truth. I don't deny that single men who believe in Biblical marriage and all that comes with it, are not in a tough spot these days. Just as @Patricia C has shared above, it is hard for all around for singles to find a way to healthy, happy and successful families. As I tell my children when they come up against the "World", that is why we need the Spirit of God. He is the only person who can make a way in the desert for us. It requires a great deal of patience and faith to keep on the path.
My reference as to being equally
I wasn’t suggesting that all men have an issue I was merely stating that I have observed some men have. I apologize if that is how it was taken