On purity...

[Robeld]

It’s very true- society is stuck somewhere between pornography and purity.
On another note, it’s interesting that in the beginning the woman’s desire is to be towards her husband and then in the NT it says
‘There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband’. 1Chor 7:34
I don’t know about you ladies, but it’s exciting to know we have that freedom. There’s a lot here.... and what’s with virginity- is it for God, for the man or for the woman? Or is it another trinity thing hiding in plain sight? We’re taught virginity is our gift to the man, but is it more of an outward sign for the man, so he knows she’s been holy? Simple as that? Have we turned it into Something it wasn’t intended and some get a self righteous air about them and some feel condemned because they weren’t a virgin at marriage?

Wow...those are interesting thoughts. As was previously said by one of the posters here, her purity or virginity almost became an idol. Boy can't we mess just about anything up? We need to put it all into perspective for sure. Personally through conversations with other ladies, I have observed that some who uphold purity to such an unhealthy high standard can struggle with "hang-ups" for years. On the flip side, I was good friends with an older (than me) lady in one if the churches I attended that started a ministry for the sexually abused in our midst. She was a victim at a young age via an uncle. She shared with me one day that she felt that the Lord had redeemed and healed that awful experience and had actually used it for good in that her early sexualization enabled her to be more giving and truly enjoy her intimate life with her husband. I thought that was miraculous actually. Her motto was always "beauty for ashes".