Okay so how old are you? I am sorry I need clarification because age is a significant factor to a lot of this.
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I can tell you once you are much older you will have a very different view point. 41 and 17 are worlds apart but also open yourself up to learning from older women.
But I am likely even more intertwined into what ever role I choose at 40.
I think you would do fine then. As long as your future husband held up his end of the “contract.” But what happens when he doesn’t? Who wins when things go awry? It sounds like you have great respect for your parents. How do they manage conflict?
Curious, what characteristics are you most attracted to in a man? I ask because sometimes the “compromise” that a woman makes when choosing a mate is physical/sexual attraction vs being a good provider/intellectual.**
**got this from a fascinating book “This is Your Brain on Birth Control”—Sarah E Hill
There are certain rules we have, however my parents kinda operate on the philosophy of blindly following rules is for lackeys, context is for Kings. They will also apply this tho employees and us kids, if reasoning can be provided. For example there is a device I am not allowed to use unsupervised and my parents put a digital lock on it. The lock was nothing professional, just from Home Depot or something. I was able to carefully open it and circumvent the lock, nothing terribly sophisticated, just re-deploying the electrical flow. I found out later that my parents knew that I was doing this, they found what I did impressive, and decided that I had earned that, so said nothing. Usually yelling at my parents will return a quite negative response, however once on a very sunny day following a heavy snowstorm, the solar panels on the roof were buried in 40cm of snow, which annoyed my dad since they were producing nothing. He then went on the roof to clear them, and since he was in a bit of a rush he did not anchor himself down or anything, which prompted me to yell at him from the ground, I think I used the french term imbécile. He later said that he likely deserved that.
Regarding the characteristics of a husband: I would be lying were I to claim that physical attraction were not to play a role, but there are certainly other thing. He needs to be cultivated, well mannered, know etiquette.He should be intelligent, and most important of all he should be curious and yearn for knowledge. I want to be able to talk to him about everything from the future results of NASA's Europa Clipper, physics, history etc.
With regards to sexuality: I guess it depends on if I am his 1st wife/has never been married before, the husband would likely be my age, or close to it, in which case I guess we would both be experimenting and finding what we like. If I am to become a 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife etc. then the husband is likely going to be 30, 40, 50 and very experienced in that regard. I presume he would then command me, and train me to meet his desires.
