Your best choice is the wife God gives you.
Proverbs 19:14 ... a prudent wife is from the Lord.
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Anyone else feeling weary?
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Proverbs 19:14 ... a prudent wife is from the Lord.
You are so focused on being first, while being her last is way more important.
This is why we need men to commit to Biblical family structures. And not to commit to finding a wife. Rather commit to raising sons who will be good men and daughters who will be good wives. And then finding a good wife for our son and give our daughter to a good man.
You can't fix the world in your time all we can hope for is to make our home more Godly than our father's and set up our sons to do the same. But if we do this over a few generations Christ will advance his kingdom more than you can imagine.
How can you have sons and daughter without wife?
Do you think Christians should have only adopted children?
It would be better to "fix" yourself and wife because it's good for yourself, herself and children can passively absorb.
Today I spent close to two hours talking to a woman who kept saying all the right things. "Headship." "Service to others." A focus on family, a desire to submit to male leadership but not being able to find a strong man. But she kept reverting to talking about sex, her body, it felt like she kept slipping from either her new healthier understanding of life, or it was just an act she couldn't keep up.
She has tattoos, which I'm not all about, but they say "Jesus," and a mezuza tattooed on her chest, which was... at least very interesting. She comes across as very devout now, and not talking to many people and living a private life. And she claimed to be 25 years old and almost 4 years celibate, which would be big if true. That's a firm spiritual stance.
Then I figure out her full name by accident and go find her on FB, and her FB is abandoned almost a decade ago it seems. Or I'm blocked from seeing it. But there's a picture of her from 11 years ago, same tattoos, same dyed hair, and I'll assure you she wasn't a teenager 11 years ago. She still looks like she could have been in her 30s back then possibly. So, she's lied to me about her age. She might be in her mid-40s. She certainly doesn't look in her twenties anyway, not after two hours on a video call.
I wanted to believe her story and give her the benefit of the doubt. I don't mind saving a young woman from the evil world and showing her how to live, but not someone who is just straight-up hiding her age and trying to make a fool of me. I want to believe she's on this healing journey and really committed to a life of chastity, but she dodges the conversation of possibly getting married, she dodged the question of how long her longest relationship was (a pretty non-invasive question), and I was talking about maybe visiting her in Las Vegas about five weeks from now during a trip I'll be on and all of a sudden she's like laying out her ovulation window because I can't miss it. And I'm like... no. There's just too many red flags. I want to have a lot of children and raise a giant family and correct my family tree but that means I have to fiercely protect what I've already built, the small family I've already been building.
It was very deflating.
And I'm just left wondering... is the spiritual life she's describing for real? Because her words were almost perfect. I went back through our messages to each other which preceded the chat today and it doesn't seem like she was farming my comments. She talked about fasting for God, and intuition from Him, and when she spoke in terms of spiritual things it felt very real and sincere. And her nervousness seemed legit. So I don't know what to think.
She has tattoos, which I'm not all about, but they say "Jesus," and a mezuza tattooed on her chest, which was... at least very interesting. She comes across as very devout now, and not talking to many people and living a private life. And she claimed to be 25 years old and almost 4 years celibate, which would be big if true. That's a firm spiritual stance.
Then I figure out her full name by accident and go find her on FB, and her FB is abandoned almost a decade ago it seems. Or I'm blocked from seeing it. But there's a picture of her from 11 years ago, same tattoos, same dyed hair, and I'll assure you she wasn't a teenager 11 years ago. She still looks like she could have been in her 30s back then possibly. So, she's lied to me about her age. She might be in her mid-40s. She certainly doesn't look in her twenties anyway, not after two hours on a video call.
I wanted to believe her story and give her the benefit of the doubt. I don't mind saving a young woman from the evil world and showing her how to live, but not someone who is just straight-up hiding her age and trying to make a fool of me. I want to believe she's on this healing journey and really committed to a life of chastity, but she dodges the conversation of possibly getting married, she dodged the question of how long her longest relationship was (a pretty non-invasive question), and I was talking about maybe visiting her in Las Vegas about five weeks from now during a trip I'll be on and all of a sudden she's like laying out her ovulation window because I can't miss it. And I'm like... no. There's just too many red flags. I want to have a lot of children and raise a giant family and correct my family tree but that means I have to fiercely protect what I've already built, the small family I've already been building.
It was very deflating.
And I'm just left wondering... is the spiritual life she's describing for real? Because her words were almost perfect. I went back through our messages to each other which preceded the chat today and it doesn't seem like she was farming my comments. She talked about fasting for God, and intuition from Him, and when she spoke in terms of spiritual things it felt very real and sincere. And her nervousness seemed legit. So I don't know what to think.
How long does she claim to have been a disciple of Jesus Christ? Has she been celibate since claiming to be saved?
Salvation includes being made alive in Christ; having resurrection life, a new and transformed manner of life. I'd be skeptical, and am skeptical, of those whose lives are not demonstrably different following a profession of faith.
Be cautious my friend.
Probably had dirty life before, but has now cleaned her life to some degree.
If she doesn't want to talk about her past, there is reason.
Your real task would be discerment how much she has changed for real.
A modern day woman who lied to you. Shocking. Not to say that people can't have a change of heart when God is involved, but the crazy colored hair, tattoos... All of those are watching signs, like the colors on a coral snake.
"Celibate" is an interesting term today. Women have normalized so many abomination behaviors in the US Matriarchy, it's not even funny.
Riding around on a piece of plastic for hours a day, daily, for decades, like Roy Rogers on Trigger isn't celibacy, but most would argue that it is.
When women even mention the notion of celibacy, talking about body count should be on the table, as well as other habits.
Buyer beware. The fb blocking sound like a God thing. I would pass her by before a soul tie is formed.
Blessings to everyone, hang in there, you can do it- whatever you're struggling with. Just rely on God, always.