Interesting Trend... Unread Messages on dating sites

[Man_in_the_Middle]

I have discovered an interesting thing. On dating sites that show if a message has been read or not, the vast majority of my messages go unread.
The messages do not show profile pics, they just show the name and the message.

At first, I did not know if they were read or not but I then saw the indicator that shows if they have been read. So, I went back to the messages I have sent in the past to any number of people and discovered that the vast majority of them were never looked at.

As a conversationalist, I tend to do well in conversations. So, I was perplexed initially by the lack of response when I could clearly see that those same people were logging on time and again.

So, what gives? Any thoughts on why women log on but never read their messages???

 

[Mark C]

I don't know the varying rules for many of those 'dating' sites. But, in the vast majority, messages to people who don't pony up the $$$$$ are not ALLOWED to be read by the recipient.

(Some, I know, allow women to send and receive messages without paying, but not men...)

 

[frederick]

Are the people you are messaging real people? Maybe AI will get better at reading and replying...

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

Are the people you are messaging real people? Maybe AI will get better at reading and replying...

Aha! Maybe we are getting somewhere!

In truth, there are a TON of scammers out there. They are the ones that most frequently want to respond.

I had a lady respond recently who was very much real and based on her conversation, she was at that very moment, looking for someone to give her mental stimulation for her immediate personal s3xual satisfaction. I had to shut her down as I am not looking for a meaningless virtual fling.

Some seem to ghost the moment you mention that you are looking for an actual get to know you type of a situation.

It is beginning to feel like the vast majority of them are online for their ego boost and that is it.

Praying for a real live girl! One who is not insane. lol

 

[Mojo]

Aha! Maybe we are getting somewhere!

In truth, there are a TON of scammers out there. They are the ones that most frequently want to respond.

I had a lady respond recently who was very much real and based on her conversation, she was at that very moment, looking for someone to give her mental stimulation for her immediate personal s3xual satisfaction. I had to shut her down as I am not looking for a meaningless virtual fling.

Some seem to ghost the moment you mention that you are looking for an actual get to know you type of a situation.

It is beginning to feel like the vast majority of them are online for their ego boost and that is it.

Praying for a real live girl! One who is not insane. lol

I believe one of our community recently found a wife online. I could be wrong.

 

[Joleneakamama]

I believe one of our community recently found a wife online. I could be wrong.

Online is mostly a waste of time ....unless you quickly eliminate the fakes by insisting on a quick progression toward real life interaction.
Get away from chat and messaging to voice and video calling, then get to visiting in real life. Don't be unsafe, but if you cannot trust someone with your phone number or address, they sure can't be trusted with your future life....QUIT WAITING FOR THAT TO CHANGE!


....because THAT is usually a waste of your life, energy, time, resources....

 

[frederick]

Praying for a real live girl! One who is not insane. lol

If she is a genuinely godly woman, the world will consider both you and her insane, and your current wife will need to be rescued from your evil clutches.

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

If she is a genuinely godly woman, the world will consider both you and her insane, and your current wife will need to be rescued from your evil clutches.

So true! I have had many try to "rescue" my lovely wife of 29 years. She does not want their "rescuing"! She is a good wife and a keeper!!

 

[frederick]

So true! I have had many try to "rescue" my lovely wife of 29 years. She does not want their "rescuing"! She is a good wife and a keeper!!

People still try to persuade my wives to abandon me since I'm such a wicked and evil sinner. And that's after 38 years with my first wife and 9 with my second.

 

[UtahLife]

I have discovered an interesting thing. On dating sites that show if a message has been read or not, the vast majority of my messages go unread.
The messages do not show profile pics, they just show the name and the message.

At first, I did not know if they were read or not but I then saw the indicator that shows if they have been read. So, I went back to the messages I have sent in the past to any number of people and discovered that the vast majority of them were never looked at.

As a conversationalist, I tend to do well in conversations. So, I was perplexed initially by the lack of response when I could clearly see that those same people were logging on time and again.

So, what gives? Any thoughts on why women log on but never read their messages???

A LOT of accounts on dating sites are fake from the platform, and fake from scammers.

 

[David D]

People still try to persuade my wives to abandon me since I'm such a wicked and evil sinner. And that's after 38 years with my first wife and 9 with my second.

There was a lot of that when I first came to a biblical understanding of marriage.

 

[David D]

I have discovered an interesting thing. On dating sites that show if a message has been read or not, the vast majority of my messages go unread.
The messages do not show profile pics, they just show the name and the message.

At first, I did not know if they were read or not but I then saw the indicator that shows if they have been read. So, I went back to the messages I have sent in the past to any number of people and discovered that the vast majority of them were never looked at.

As a conversationalist, I tend to do well in conversations. So, I was perplexed initially by the lack of response when I could clearly see that those same people were logging on time and again.

So, what gives? Any thoughts on why women log on but never read their messages???

The only thing I found with dating sites it I got to talk to quite few "Christian" women about biblical marriage that may never have heard of the concept. Pretty much all of it ended in rejection and me greeting called a cheater and blocked but I used to do sales so I got used to rejection

 

[Mojo]

Online is mostly a waste of time ....unless you quickly eliminate the fakes by insisting on a quick progression toward real life interaction.
Get away from chat and messaging to voice and video calling, then get to visiting in real life. Don't be unsafe, but if you cannot trust someone with your phone number or address, they sure can't be trusted with your future life....QUIT WAITING FOR THAT TO CHANGE!


....because THAT is usually a waste of your life, energy, time, resources....

Is that general, plural YOU

Or singular, personal YOU?

I don’t have any social media or any online accounts other than BF. I’m not an online person. I just remember reading about more than one person on BF finding a new spouse via such means. Not my cup of tea, but it’s a fact.

However, I do agree with your sentiment.

 

[steve]

I just remember reading about more than one person on BF finding a new spouse via such means.

From my observation there hasn’t been hardly any successful relationships accomplished by such means.

 

[Mojo]

From my observation there hasn’t been hardly any successful relationships accomplished by such means.

“Hardly any” and “more than one” would be a minimum of two. In all my time since joining BF, that’s about all I remember (two or three?). I wasn’t saying it was sizeable or even recommended. I certainly wouldn’t engage but I’m not going to stop someone.

 

[steve]

“Hardly any” and “more than one” would be a minimum of two. In all my time since joining BF, that’s about all I remember (two or three?). I wasn’t saying it was sizeable or even recommended. I certainly wouldn’t engage but I’m not going to stop someone.

If you’ll notice, I snuck the word “successful” in there.
Of those 2-3, how many are a positive testimony today?

There have been an outhouse full of all sorts of relationships that haven’t made the grade, I’m responsible for more than my fair share all by myself.
So I’m NOT picking on anybody.

 

[Man_in_the_Middle]

If you’ll notice, I snuck the word “successful” in there.
Of those 2-3, how many are a positive testimony today?

There have been an outhouse full of all sorts of relationships that haven’t made the grade, I’m responsible for more than my fair share all by myself.
So I’m NOT picking on anybody.

I must say... As I see more and more of how the women behave online, my overall opinion of women has dropped considerably. Not all women, I know.... But, this is not an encouraging thing to see.

 

[steve]

I must say... As I see more and more of how the women behave online, my overall opinion of women has dropped considerably. Not all women, I know.... But, this is not an encouraging thing to see.

The old saying is if a woman is single, some guys out there are sick of her shyte.

 

[Mojo]

If you’ll notice, I snuck the word “successful” in there.
Of those 2-3, how many are a positive testimony today?

There have been an outhouse full of all sorts of relationships that haven’t made the grade, I’m responsible for more than my fair share all by myself.
So I’m NOT picking on anybody.

Ok. I guess I glossed over successful, but that goes for all marriages, including plurals.

It’s not necessarily the method, it’s the ingredients in the mix. Not all the failures we’ve seen around here were from online meetings.

 

[bigonlife1981]

I must say... As I see more and more of how the women behave online, my overall opinion of women has dropped considerably. Not all women, I know.... But, this is not an encouraging thing to see.

I have noticed this in general with both sex's that online behaviour is someone lacking in decent and moral attributes. Maybe it is because you can wear a persona or mask and play in the shadows with no instant repercussions like you would have face to face?