An alternative perspective on women teaching in a congregation:
Something to keep in mind with a lot of these epistles is they are often writing to congregations where many if not most of the leadership were Jews. In Jewish tradition the men study the word a lot; and the women are exempt due to other important tasks that keep them busy. The early Gentile believers in those congregations assimilated into the Jewish culture since the "Followers of the Way" later known Christians, was a sect of Judaism; so even the men who had been Greek or whatever adapted this culture of "men study the scriptures hard". In other cultures where epistles are sent we also find that almost all of the women in the day were illiterate and most of the men as well.
In such a context it would certainly be shameful for someone who had little bible experience, and was likely illiterate as women back then were not taught to read usually, to stand and teach the scholars. It's not such a reflection on women I think as it is on the notion of someone with relatively little learning trying to compare themselves as equal or above those with deep bible learning.
Today, however, it is a fact that there are some women who are very deep in their bible learning and there are many men who are ignorant, perhaps only studying 15 minutes a day. In such a case, I posit it is ashame for such men to contradict teachers in their communities who are deep in the scripture.
In summary:
It is shameful for someone who is weak in the word and has little bible study experience in his/her life to presume to teach those (in those days mostly men) who are deep in word.
I'd find it repugnant for an 18 year old man who was ignorant to try to contradict a thirty-year old female bible scholar. This is an issue with the times we live in ;there is rarely respect for the level of bible learning that someone has inside of them; only for titles.
Luke 6:40 “The student is not above the teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher.”
***disclaimer -I'm only presenting this because I didn't see anyone suggesting this perspective and I though it might be edifying as an angle not yet considered, I'm not suggesting that women seize leadership roles where there are qualified men***