Hello,
I have been with my wonderful husband for nearly 19 years. In the past we have joked about polygamy being a wonderful thing for a family, haha many hands make light work, haha I wouldn't have to "put up with you every night" haha.... A couple of years ago we came to the understanding that Poly is scriptural but we didn't think it was for us.
Now the rubber is hitting the road as my husband is seriously considering adding another wife to our family. She is a sweet wonderful person and a perfect fit with our family, I hope he decides soon to get on with it! I am trying to work through the "first wife syndrome" feelings describe so well by Poodles in another post (highly recommend reading that one!). I have been open with my husband in telling him "this hurts a lot but I am willing to go through it, just keeping loving me too". He has been so gentle and loving and kind with me it is making the rough times very bearable. Right now I am: focusing on gratitude, trying to hold on to the truth that my hubby loves me and I am not being replaced, feeling my emotions settle from a rolling boil to a quiet simmer and praying they get more and more comfortable, practicing being kind and praying for us all as we work through this time of transition. I am struggling a little bit with feelings of hopelessness in regards to the emotional pain, like there is going to be this little stab of pain forever.....but hoping that isn't true.
I have been with my wonderful husband for nearly 19 years. In the past we have joked about polygamy being a wonderful thing for a family, haha many hands make light work, haha I wouldn't have to "put up with you every night" haha.... A couple of years ago we came to the understanding that Poly is scriptural but we didn't think it was for us.
Now the rubber is hitting the road as my husband is seriously considering adding another wife to our family. She is a sweet wonderful person and a perfect fit with our family, I hope he decides soon to get on with it! I am trying to work through the "first wife syndrome" feelings describe so well by Poodles in another post (highly recommend reading that one!). I have been open with my husband in telling him "this hurts a lot but I am willing to go through it, just keeping loving me too". He has been so gentle and loving and kind with me it is making the rough times very bearable. Right now I am: focusing on gratitude, trying to hold on to the truth that my hubby loves me and I am not being replaced, feeling my emotions settle from a rolling boil to a quiet simmer and praying they get more and more comfortable, practicing being kind and praying for us all as we work through this time of transition. I am struggling a little bit with feelings of hopelessness in regards to the emotional pain, like there is going to be this little stab of pain forever.....but hoping that isn't true.
