I will give you an example, from a Church I went to, but I want no one to mention the name of the denomination if they know it. I just do not want online gossiping about them.
A Church I went to said children were a metaphor for disciples.
I thought something like that is ok, it could be a metaphor for disciples and also continue to have a literal meaning of having children.
So I never objected for years until it was time I was ready to get married, only then did I find out what they really meant
"You can not marry someone and want to have a lot of children, how are you supposed to make disciples. You need to sacrifice how many children you have in order to make disciples"
They pointed to many new testament verses about "spiritual" fatherhood.
I can agree that there could be such a thing as spiritual fatherhood but usually it is very clear if the literal or spiritual (or perhaps both or maybe yet something else) is meant based on the CONTEXT.
But they systematically got rid of every verse referring to having literal children.
Now the way I saw it a good way to make disciples is to have children and then disciple them, but that does not count on record keeping so they can boast I guess. :lol:
Now once they had us skim through some book on the emerging Church, suggesting we use the methods in the book.
Someone from the emergent Church might say something like, "No one can take your testimony from you because they can not argue that you experienced it so share your experiences rather than empty head knowledge about what you think the Bible means to witness to people." "You must learn to apply it to yourself and not just have empty head knowledge."
Would the meaning change if I was not born? That is why we should find out what it means apart from us, before we know how to obey it, in many but not all circumstances.
I have a very different philosophy than them
Another example a man read Genesis 22 where Abraham almost sacrificed Isaac and decided to live in another country than his wife for several years to make ministry more productive. I said that, that is not what Genesis 22 means, and I got in big, big trouble and it was suggested I take a vacation from their Church for a week and then decide if I should come back, I decided to make the vacation permanent (unless they change.)
If anyone knows what Church or denomination that is, do not mention it. I am trying not to gossip about this denomination, because the sad thing is, they are doing a lot of good works more than other Churches and teaching better doctrine than many other Churches. They actually have helped a lot of people believe it or not. And I do not think they are necessarily unsaved they are just very very confused people.