Polygamist Sites!

[James]

My question is for anyone who has an opinion about other Polygamist sites. I have noticed that a lot of the Polygamist sites are being over run by people who are searching for additions to their family on the grounds that they are bi-sexual. I know that this occurs but my question is this. As members, do you feel that this is putting a bad image on what we are trying to show the rest of the world when it comes to Polygamist marriages? I am glad that we have a site like Biblical Families that is set up for the right reasons. I know that we are part of some of the websites such as sisterwifewanted and sisterwives.net. I just hate they turning it into a site set up for the wrong reason. I love to hear from our members whether you agree or disagree.

God Bless,

James

 

[FollowingHim]

My first reaction is a bit controversial, and I'm not sure I agree with it myself...

Our society today is far more willing to accept gay marriage than polygamy. The gays seem to get whatever they want. Maybe what we need IS some gay people pushing for polygamy?

 

[CecilW]

Maybe what we need IS some gay people pushing for polygamy?

Would that be "poly-gay-me"?

Sorry. Couldn't resist. :lol:

 

[CecilW]

I know that we are part of some of the websites such as sisterwifewanted and sisterwives.net.

Really? I must be odd. Never been to either site. We got what we need and I want here.

 

[Jack P.]

I normally dont comment, BUT i feel like this is something that warrants commenting on. First of all i believe that everyone has the right to choose and live in any manor they want. Second as a christian i can not judge anyone else, all i can do is witness to them. (with actions, words. kindness and love) Third everything that is good and right in life is going to have someone somewhere distorting the truth that lays within. Now with all that said I tend to lean toward we help our selves, by warning each other of sites that do not follow Biblical truth. Also any time that any of us are in a place that we can promote this truth we are bound to do so.

Jack P.
in christ

 

[Shadowjak's Dancer]

I don't think allying ourselves with something specifically disallowed in the Bible would help our cause, especially as people presume PM to be against God's Word. I noticed Mark Henkel mentioning gay marriage and a few other issues in his attempts to do away with marriage laws or at least seriously overhaul them. For me, if this site started joining forces with the homosexual movement just to gain political clout, I would not continue my involvement.

Well said, ChrisM... though about not continuing involvement, I think I would first ( even though I've hardly been here long enough to impose my opinion on anyone ) very strongly object to the idea of allying with the cause of homosexuals, as the very name of this website is "Biblical Families" and all. I have found this place to be such a great ministry to me and have thoroughly enjoyed interacting with some of you, and would be thoroughly disappointed if things went that way. If they did, I would have to eventually discontinue my involvement also. That would be very sad for me, for though I have only been here a short while, this community has become very precious to me. Just saying, and not trying to be all sentimental or anything.

 

[CecilW]

Just for the record ... BiblicalFamilies.org is NOT into political activism, in association with gays, Mark Henkel, or anyone else.

If some individual members are, that is their very own business. We are not interested in controlling anyone except our very own selves -- a difficult enough task! Certainly not in trying to enforce some sort of conformity to a specific viewpoint on either members or the general public at large.

 

[FollowingHim]

I certainly did not mean BF should be allied with the gay lobby! I just agree with Jack that everyone has a right to live their own life as they see fit, so bisexual polygamy existing in society doesn't bother me. If it became popular enough to become a political movement among the gay lobby that wouldn't harm our cause either, if anything it would be helpful by promoting freedom. Don't have to agree with it to see a political benefit.

Are the sites you refer to actually promoting such a lifestyle, or just open to people from any viewpoint including that one meaning that quite a few turn up?

 

[Isabella]

I just hate they turning it into a site set up for the wrong reason. I love to hear from our members whether you agree or disagree

I think people looking for Biblical marriage are looking for Biblical marriage, I think people looking for a bisexual woman are looking for a bisexual woman....and never the twain shall meet...or so I hope.

Anyway, they are different things, since there is no indication that these other sites have Biblical in their title, you are incorrect with saying they are the wrong reasons, I mean, clearly they are the right reasons for many people who use them. If you want a personals site set up on Biblical rules why not start one? But as far as I know, neither of those sites say they are, so I am unsure why you feel the need to insist they conform you your ideals, I just find that bizarre.

As for the alignment with the marriage equality movement...well to be honest, I don't think the gays want our involvement.


B

 

[FollowingHim]

Well said Bels.

 

[James]

I have to say I have enjoyed reading all the comments about the topic and pretty much agree with everyone. I do not wish for the sites to conform to my idea's or wants because in the end if I don't like a site I do not have to be a member of it. I will admit I find freinds on just about any site I have ever been a part of. I agree that a person should be themselves and find there happy medium, regardless of what ever it is. I can not answer for what anyone else does. I can only answer the God for the things I do. I don't have to start a site on Biblical rules because I am just fine and dandy with the Biblical site I am a part of now. I just like the fact here at Biblical Families we are all on the same page when it comes to what we are all looking for and we are all seeking guidence from the same man. I will continue to let him guide me and not allow anyone or any site to change that. I just felt this was an interesting topic to discuss and your replies showed me that it was. I enjoy my Biblical Family members and the insite they give and bring to the table. Great job guys, love and respect each one of you. I hope that my topic question has not offended anyone.

 

[Andres&Christie]

I think people looking for Biblical marriage are looking for Biblical marriage, I think people looking for a bisexual woman are looking for a bisexual woman....and never the twain shall meet...or so I hope.

Anyway, they are different things, since there is no indication that these other sites have Biblical in their title, you are incorrect with saying they are the wrong reasons, I mean, clearly they are the right reasons for many people who use them. If you want a personals site set up on Biblical rules why not start one? But as far as I know, neither of those sites say they are, so I am unsure why you feel the need to insist they conform you your ideals, I just find that bizarre.

As for the alignment with the marriage equality movement...well to be honest, I don't think the gays want our involvement.

Well thought statement! As for non-biblical poly sites...i.e. Sisterwives.net we have a profile there but have never talked with any of the ladies there because the just hasn't really been anyone right for us. That being said I have seen Christian couples and singles alike on that site seeking PM for the right reasons, as well as people looking for the bi-sexual setup...we as individuals choose what we look for and how we use the resources available to us. I think it is okay for a Christian couple or single to have a profile on a site that is not necessarily "Christian" (although their search may not be fruitful) as long as they are clear about what they believe and what they are looking for.

As far as I am concerned the gays don't want me, and I don't really want them! I don't think Christian Polygamists should be aligned with gays for marriage equality because PM is biblical and homosexuality isn't... I could care less if our government gives them a marriage license and perhaps doesn't give one to my husband and a future second wife. I know that God would validate and sanctify my PM and not the gay marriage.

 

[Ephraim]

We have used some of those sites to and nothing ever came of it. Some messaging ect. but most turned out to be either fakes or something other than what we were looking for. The problem I find though is that there are no actual Christian poly dating sites. Or maybe there are and I just don’t know about them.