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Non-sexual Polygamy :-p

SisOf9

SisOf9

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Hey Y’all!

I probably don’t “belong” here, but it seems our family doesn’t fit in anywhere, and I need fellowship so here I am. :-)

Our family has my husband and myself, we “adopted” a single mom 2 years ago and we three raise her biological girls together (they are turning six and two this summer). She is Mommy, I’m Mama, and Hubby is Daddy.

But, my husband and I are the only ones with a romantic relationship. (She would very much like this to not be the case, but it is what it is.)

Hubby and I both believe that polygamy is neither mandated nor prohibited by scripture.

I’m sure there is more to say, but this is all I can think of at 10pm after a long full day :)
 
Shalom and welcome.
 
Welcome! Welcome! That’s a very interesting bio/snippet. I personally see nothing wrong with that arrangement if thats what the family (read husband) has determined. I also don’t see anything wrong with a more intimate arrangement providing it’s consensual and within covenant. Just my .02. Glad to have you
 
Welcome to BF.
 
Welcome aboard!
 
Hello and welcome!

I hope your husband will join too.

Your family is your business, but since you put it out there, I think Bibilcially speaking your sister wife is being mistreated. As a wife she is entitled to sexual intimacy. If she is not considered a wife, then your arrangement is probably preventing her from finding a man who will fullfill a husband's duty towards her which includes sexual intimacy.

If you are having difficulty understanding this I would encourage you to watch this movie and see how one wife looks after the needs of the other wife:

 
Welcome, and thanks for being willing to be open about your situation! It's one that actually has occurred over and over again throughout history, when a monogamous couple takes someone else under their wing. It's a very practical arrangement. For instance, how many of our parents & grandparents generation talk fondly about the unmarried aunts that helped to raise them? These aunts were only part of their lives because of the shortage of men following two world wars, and the lack of societal acceptance of polygamy. Plenty of families were a monogamous couple plus an aunt / widow / other spinster. You only call it "non-sexual polygamy" because you understand polygamy is ok, if you didn't think that way you'd call her something different but it wouldn't change the reality.

I agree with cnystrom that, given you understand polygamy is acceptable, your husband should certainly be seeking God to determine whether He has something better in mind for your family than just the standard monogamous-couple-plus-spinster arrangement that you're currently living. That really still leaves a large hole in her life. But he may already have done so in great depth, not my role to assume anything when I don't know you and have only read a brief introductory post.

In summary - welcome, you're not weird, and you certainly do 'belong' here! :)
 
Welcome!
I would echo what the men who have already spoken have said.
 
Welcome to our little part of the Internet. It’s nice to have you join us.
 
SisOf9 said:
Hey Y’all!

I probably don’t “belong” here, but it seems our family doesn’t fit in anywhere, and I need fellowship so here I am. :)

Our family has my husband and myself, we “adopted” a single mom 2 years ago and we three raise her biological girls together (they are turning six and two this summer). She is Mommy, I’m Mama, and Hubby is Daddy.

But, my husband and I are the only ones with a romantic relationship. (She would very much like this to not be the case, but it is what it is.)

Hubby and I both believe that polygamy is neither mandated nor prohibited by scripture.

I’m sure there is more to say, but this is all I can think of at 10pm after a long full day :)
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Welcome! I think you belong here as well with your family!

I think it's very cool to read the names you use for the parents, we do the exact same thing in our home, momma and mommy.

I'm curious, is your husband "bound" to her? If so sexual intimacy is important. Does he not want it? Or is he concerned about you? If he's not "bound" then that would need to occur 1st.
 
Greetings! I hope you find much encouragement and wisdom here. You are welcome to join in at our weekly Ladies Chat on Monday nights. It starts at 7:30 EST, but come whenever you can. We would love to have you!
 
Welcome!
 
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