Fair enough!
You know one other possible nefarious reason they could be OK with the marriage problems in their congregations, is the amount of money they charge for counseling services, and the number of people willing to pay for it. I would prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt, and suggest that they really believe that what they are teaching folks, is "God's Way", and they simply have failed to do introspection on how the results are turning out. When our Bible Study class morphed into a "He Said, She Said, God Said", study on the book "His Needs, Her Needs" written by Dr. Harley, I asked how many long term studies had been done, and of course they noted that he didn't really use Scripture to back up his suggestions, so they were going in and finding Scripture to fit his suggestions. Well it turns out, there have been no long term studies on the effectiveness of that book, but he sells it with a bunch of subjective anecdotes AKA testimonials. Needless to say, I had my "Balderdash" detector on high alert during that eight week period.
The other problem, is that most followers of Christ, have never really developed their critical thinking skills. Too often, we parrot what we hear from the pulpit! There is some good stuff parroted, to be sure, that came from many good thinkers and scholars of the past, but we run into trouble when we encounter responses to that, from people who have read books written by Dawkins and other skeptics, that we are not familiar with. Now there are good men like Ray Comfort, who have developed excellent responses to those arguments, but I say all that to point out that we don't really study to show ourselves approved. Paul told Titus that he should be able to silence the opposition. It is for this very reason though, that we also allow false teaching to creep into the church. It is so seductive, and sounds so similar to what we have become familiar with, as you said, like the frog in the pot, that we fail to see how we got off the narrow path in the first place.
WOW! Just WOW! You said it brother! That right there!
Yes and no. For us, it was no charge, bc we were involved in leadership in the church I suppose, and they knew I had no intention to pay, and our finances somewhat dictated that. At another place we went to, they gave us a discount, and when the counselor we were working with at our church, and he was really good, left to pastor another church, we stuck with him, and he gave us a huge discount. That was his source of income, since that church was much smaller and couldn't afford to pay the minister. So yes, they charge and there are couples who pay, who are in much better shape financially, but not always. Indeed the love of money doth corrupt, but again, I am only throwing that out there as a potentially nefarious reason. I am inclined to believe though, that they have convinced themselves that what they promote, is "God's Way", and have failed to see that what they are actually promoting, God detests.
Now there is a cash cow that I hadn’t considered milking.
Now THAT is the empowering difference that understanding the truth about Biblical Marriage makes! I can honestly say, that in not ONE of my marriage counseling sessions, have I EVER been the slightest bit sheepish!