If a woman has not yet put together the truth about polygyny.... If a man is having Bible study with a woman (and only her.) If a woman talks about her sister a lot and is very good friends with her sister. And she says her sister is interested in getting the information in the Bible study..... Is it a bad idea to mention to her that if her sister is interested she can come to Bible study if she wants to invite her sister?
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Is it a bad move to meet someone and their sister(s)?
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As long as it's for bible study only though I for some reason do not believe that is whats ment here. Remember the bible clearly states: Leviticus talks about prohibitions against marriage with a mother, stepmother, sister or half-sister, whether "born at home or abroad," granddaughter, aunt, whether by consanguinity on either side or by marriage on the fathers side, daughter in-law, brothers wife, stepdaughter, wifes mother, stepgranddaughter, or wifes sister during the lifetime of the wife. An exception is subsequently made, ( 26:5-9 ) in favor of marriage with a brothers wife in the event of his having died childless. So bible study sure, but to court not a good idea according to the bible!
I believe that it was the Reverend Billy Graham who claimed that he was never alone with any woman besides his relatives and his wife after he married her. I am not sure that it is appropriate for a man to be having a bible study with only a woman. So if you had the sister there, it might make it more appropriate.
SweetLissa
SweetLissa
sweetlissa said:
If the Bible study was in a public place that would be a non-issue
If the man was interested in both the woman and the sister. I think it would make it many more fold than twice as much a temptation to sin in thought. In fact unless there is supernatural intervention the person might not be able to speak coherently anymore when the sister is there if he is not married to anyone.
Revgill87123 said:
A man CAN marry a woman and her sister so long as there is no maritally disqualifying rivalry intended or predicted by the man
18 “‘Do not take your wife’s sister as a rival wife and have sexual relations with her while your wife is living.
Leviticus 18:18 NIV 2011
18Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time.
Some of the commands in Leviticus 18 carry a death penalty for disobedience in Leviticus 20
For instance a man marrying a woman and her daughter/mother (which might not be the man's genetic daughter if she is a widow, etc.) is forbidden in Leviticus 18:17 and carries a death penalty in Leviticus 20:14
Is there any death penalty for marrying a woman and her sister in Leviticus 20?
My concern is, is it better for a man in such a situation to start with both or work on the one and then bring in the second?
Would it possibly offend the women if.......
Would it possibly offend the women if.......
steve said:dtt,
i hereby nominate you as monarch of the kingdom of "IF"
DiscussingTheTopic said:
he worked with both because of the polygynous implications, if the man worked with both
Either
1. She finds out about his belief in the Bible teaching polygyny after Bible study with both
Or
2. She finds out about his belief in the Bible teaching polygyny before the Bible study with both
Would it be more awkward for the second one if he started with the first one one only and only invited the second one to Bible study after marriage to the first so he is pursuing her at a point where they have yet to have developed a strong friendship before marrying the first so the second one not knowing him well just thinks he is a creepy polygynist minded guy, instead of a wisely polygynous minded guy who is different but not creepy.
I think that a bible study should be done because of your desire to share the Lord with someone else. Not because of any ulterior relationship motive, be it mono or plural.
If you have having bible studies to find relationships, I think you are not motivated properly.
SweetLissa
If you have having bible studies to find relationships, I think you are not motivated properly.
SweetLissa
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DTT,
Don't worry about the second, until you have the first as a wife. The issue will resolve itself, because sisters talk to each other. The second will soon know everything about you. Applying ethics to a hypothetical situation becomes a sider web of what ifs. Soon we are struggling like a fly to find a way out of a situation that does not even exist yet.
Don't worry about the second, until you have the first as a wife. The issue will resolve itself, because sisters talk to each other. The second will soon know everything about you. Applying ethics to a hypothetical situation becomes a sider web of what ifs. Soon we are struggling like a fly to find a way out of a situation that does not even exist yet.
sweetlissa said:
If someone is not sharing the Lord with someone then there is something wrong with their relationship.
I mean if the motivation for doing the bible study is to find a relationship rather than to share the Lord, the motivation is wrong. Share the bible with anyone you choose and let God deal with the relationships.
SweetLissa
SweetLissa
sweetlissa said:
What if the motivation is both?
What if you prefer to marry someone who is open to accepting God's word and you think if the person is interested in having a relationship with you they are more likely to be receptive to God's word?
And sharing God's word will enable you to see if they are receptive to God's word and someone you would like to marry and the personal relationship with them provides a good opportunity to share God's word and you want studying God's word with them to be a major part of any NON-PHYSICAL friendship you have with them?
And you do not think they would be comfortable marrying someone who is not friends first and becoming friends after marriage, so you have to develop the friendship first if you are going to marry them in a reasonable manner and you want a major focus of the friendship to be God's word?
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Steve wrote,
I second the nomination!
DTT, my friend, there is way too much speculation in this thread.
I second the nomination!
DTT, my friend, there is way too much speculation in this thread.
I study the bible with my hubby all the time. But what you are talking about seem to be two different things. I remember seeing in TV shows (I never did it myself) young people having "study dates" which turned out to be more date than study.
Of course you want to study the bible with a woman you desire to have a romantic relationship with. But that is in one context. The context I hear you talking about is studying the bible in order to create a relationship with her. If God does that with you great! But it shouldn't be your motivation. Your motivation should be to study the bible with people. It should be open to anyone, male or female, married or single. Otherwise it could just become another euphamism for dating.
If your motives are pure then you can have a bible study with her, her sister, her brother and her parents.
SweetLissa
Of course you want to study the bible with a woman you desire to have a romantic relationship with. But that is in one context. The context I hear you talking about is studying the bible in order to create a relationship with her. If God does that with you great! But it shouldn't be your motivation. Your motivation should be to study the bible with people. It should be open to anyone, male or female, married or single. Otherwise it could just become another euphamism for dating.
If your motives are pure then you can have a bible study with her, her sister, her brother and her parents.
SweetLissa