Feeling Blessed

[a virtuous woman]

Hello! I have been on here before but needed a new account because my other one was too easily identifiable to me in real life. So I decided to start new. I haven’t posted a lot so it seemed like it was not a bad idea. I have been a second wife for 5 years now. My husband and sister-wife have been married for 20 years now. They have five kids together. I have one and one currently on the way (due in October). I love this lifestyle because I feel like it is where God wanted me to be. I knew my husband for only a month and a half before we got married before God. We didn't do a fancy ceremony just all agreed that this is what we wanted. I wouldn't say I was even in love but knew it was the right thing because God had arranged my marriage. I have enjoyed having someone else to share in the responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the husband together. I would not want to be the wife of one husband. I still get my time to myself or to do things with the kids knowing my husband is being taken care of. He gets to put his attention on God and ensures that our family is headed in the right direction.

Back in 2017, my husband got the vision from God that we needed to open a business and we currently run and live in the business we operate. I co-own it with my sister wife and it has built our relationship up even more. While running our business we made friends with another woman who needed spiritual counseling. After knowing her and working with her for almost a year my husband, myself, and the other woman all heard the same thing from God that this woman was supposed to be a part of our family. After much thought and prayer, they were married before God with all of us being in agreement. This actually just happened recently. I am excited about having another sister wife and it is truly a blessing. She is the perfect fit and again someone that God sent to this family. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[Joleneakamama]

Thank you for sharing your story.

This site is a huge blessing to people that are trying to wrap their minds around how biblically styled families work in real life.

As a first and only wife I am it! My Hubby's one and only. I feel blessed too! I'm the loved wife of a good man.
Even so I have long felt a sisterwife could be a blessing.
I have no idea if a woman that would "fit" our family exists. I know that a good woman very much younger might decide one of our sons was who she was looking for, and that wouldn't hurt our feelings at all! Matter of fact, hubby and I would probably prefer to see these guys married then for him to take a second when they are still single.

Congratulations on the bun in the oven!!
Babies are precious gifts.
Congrats too on the new adult member of your family!
She is I'm sure blessed to be welcomed by such a family team!

I used to think about how a second wife might not get the warm welcome I did from my Hubby's family. His brothers and sisters would not welcome a second like they did me. But then we raised a family that understands what marriage is biblically.....and if some brave soul decides to join us these guys will be supportive.
We have been wearing down my in laws for years getting them used to the idea, But I'd take a sisterwife in my daily life over their approval any day!

 

[a virtuous woman]

Thank you for sharing your story.

This site is a huge blessing to people that are trying to wrap their minds around how biblically styled families work in real life.

As a first and only wife I am it! My Hubby's one and only. I feel blessed too! I'm the loved wife of a good man.
Even so I have long felt a sisterwife could be a blessing.
I have no idea if a woman that would "fit" our family exists. I know that a good woman very much younger might decide one of our sons was who she was looking for, and that wouldn't hurt our feelings at all! Matter of fact, hubby and I would probably prefer to see these guys married then for him to take a second when they are still single.

Congratulations on the bun in the oven!!
Babies are precious gifts.
Congrats too on the new adult member of your family!
She is I'm sure blessed to be welcomed by such a family team!

I used to think about how a second wife might not get the warm welcome I did from my Hubby's family. His brothers and sisters would not welcome a second like they did me. But then we raised a family that understands what marriage is biblically.....and if some brave soul decides to join us these guys will be supportive.
We have been wearing down my in laws for years getting them used to the idea, But I'd take a sisterwife in my daily life over their approval any day!

Thank you! Yes, it is! I love the community and have lurked on here for a while. It's hard to find people who understand and follow God and his teachings. My family has been accepted by a lot of our friends, but they do not understand the biblical standpoint or believe that God would allow it. I loved coming in as a second wife because I could tell that my husband knew how to raise kids and he was a great husband to his wife. Yes, a sister wife is a huge blessing. I do not care about the opinions of others. I just care about having God's blessing and doing what he is thinking. My mom did not like the idea at first but she has accepted and loves the family. I just do not know how she is going to react to the news of a third. I do not know how our community will either.

 

[Joleneakamama]

My mom did not like the idea at first but she has accepted and loves the family. I just do not know how she is going to react to the news of a third.

You are blessed to have her accept it. If she has concerns about a third I'm sure you all can win her confidence.

Many think children in big families are somehow disadvantaged. It is faulty human logic that doesn't understand the real dynamics of a large family that cares for each other. When women are used to being only wives they can think that others would detract from their quality of life. Reality is, like children, sisterwives add and bless a family in undefinable and countless ways.

 

[frederick]

Thank you for posting your introduction. It is super encouraging to read of the joys and blessings a woman experiences in a plural marriage. May God continue to strengthen you all in your relationship, and bring you abundant joy and peace.

 

[a virtuous woman]

You are blessed to have her accept it. If she has concerns about a third I'm sure you all can win her confidence.

Many think children in big families are somehow disadvantaged. It is faulty human logic that doesn't understand the real dynamics of a large family that cares for each other. When women are used to being only wives they can think that others would detract from their quality of life. Reality is, like children, sisterwives add and bless a family in undefinable and countless ways.

I’m sure with time she will accept it. My mom is very understanding and caring. I am looking forward to also building a stronger relationship with the third’s parents. Both my Husband’s father and mine have passed, and having a father is something we miss. When I joined the family none of the adults had a mom and the kids didn’t really have a grandmother. So it has been a blessing watching God restore those relationships through adding members to the family.

You are right. Each sister wife brings something new to the family that others do not have. It adds and enriches the lives of the children. The kids have gotten to know the third wife over the past year and so it is not like she is a stranger.

 

[Keith Martin]

Wonderful testimonial. Thank you for reintroducing yourself. I'm going to be sure to encourage my wife to read it! Thank you.

 

[julieb]

Thank you for sharing! It is always good to hear of plural families striving to be a positive and loving example of who God is. Blessings to you and your family as you continue to grow in all things. Hope to hear more from you in the future!