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Community Poll about Man Caves

Do you have or would you want a man cave?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 54.5%

  • No

    Votes: 5 45.5%
  • Total voters
    11
BiblicalLiteralist

BiblicalLiteralist

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This one is for the men, I am collecting some data on man caves and want to know how many of you have a man cave at home in some form or fashion? Whether its a closet or a bunker, how many of you masculine men have a place dedicated to your man stuff?

What is the theme you are going for?
What is on display in your man cave?
Are you still actively expanding your man cave?
 
BiblicalLiteralist said:
This one is for the men, I am collecting some data on man caves and want to know how many of you have a man cave at home in some form or fashion? Whether its a closet or a bunker, how many of you masculine men have a place dedicated to your man stuff?

What is the theme you are going for?
What is on display in your man cave?
Are you still actively expanding your man cave?
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Where is poll?

You know that you can create poll when creating new thread?
 
I have my home. My office/study in the big house when we get it remodeled and moved into will have my books and such. I’ll put a small liquor cabinet in there, glassware for experiments, assorted skulls and souvenirs from travel, bookshelves floor to ceiling, aquariums (125 gal fresh & 700 gal reef), sherlock holmes-esque. Sadly no shop as of yet, still have trees to fell and mill into lumber before I can build that. But the workshop is where I’ll have my woodworking, metalworking, and gunsmith’s equipment, reloading, tools etc…

I don’t believe in “man caves”. Too much of the feminist exclusionary mindset. The whole domain is mine to fill as I see fit.

I have some of my stuff on the wall next to my desk, rifles and pistols, animal skulls, mementos from my travels, things my grandfather picked up in his world travels. Shelves I milled and finished from a white oak that dropped at my childhood campground.
 
We were at some friends house, and the husband mentioned that he would like a "man cave". The wife laughed, and looked around the living room absolutely filled with taxidermy animals on the walls, a giant TV, western themed paintings, and exotic decorations from South America and the Himalayas, and said "our whole house is a man cave". I think she is right. I know he has a whole room in their basement filled with ammo, and the decorations throughout the house are definitely masculine.
 
NickF said:
I don’t believe in “man caves”. Too much of the feminist exclusionary mindset. The whole domain is mine to fill as I see fit.
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I completely agree with this. It seems to be the positive version of the man "sleeping on the couch" or being "in the dogbox" - the home is hers, the bed is hers, he leaves to do his stuff and gets kicked out to his little retreat if he displeases her.

So no, I don't have a man-cave.

But in practice I do have an entire implement shed that's nearly as big as the house which includes my workshop and office, and is a place I go to do practical stuff, and occasionally to read or write without interruption from the children. But it's not a "man-cave", which I'd interpret as a manly decorated entertainment space. If I want to entertain anyone I use the lounge of my house.
 
I would want a space of my own but I am definitely not a man cave sort of guy. I am more of a library or study type but I think those are for the family.

Ideal world would allow for a small separate building with enough room for a couple or three comfortable chairs, a small drinks cabinet, a tiny fireplace or wood stove and a half bath.

Love my wife, loved my wives when that was the circumstance but I did get an occasional night on my own. If I had the small space of my own as I described (but more likely a comfy ass beat old chair in a shed or a corner of the pole barn) then I suspect those nights on my own would be few and far between
 
I've always had my office at home, but it has never been anything else. We share our lives living together, so we don't try to isolate our lives from one another in our home.
 
I only used the term man cave because I could not think of a better one to describe the area in which one displays their masculine character. If you will help me come up with a better term it would be much appreciated. The idea of the poll being an area in which one (men) expresses their hobbies, interests, or collections in an interactive way. For some its the garage, others its the shop, the gun room, or the office/study. Some only have the space for a single area to do all these things, others can have multiple rooms themed towards their various interests. Man cave was the easiest way to cover all these areas in a single term, as these areas are normally majority masculine dominated and utilized. Obviously the house is his entire domain, that doesn't mean I am going to display my first computer build above the door in the kitchen, as it would be out of place.
 
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Please just let women decorate the homes, we enjoy it and don't want all of the men's stuff laying around the common living areas. Women take pride in how their homes look. How insecure do you have to be to make a power struggle out of decorating ideas :rolleyes:
 
@theleastofthese, I don't care about decorating a home. I'm not sure where you're getting that from. You seem to be thinking this is a contest between husband and wife, as to which one is going to take over the entire house. That's not how marriage works - it's a collaboration, not a contest. For instance, the following hypothetical situation can be solved in many different ways:
BiblicalLiteralist said:
Obviously the house is his entire domain, that doesn't mean I am going to display my first computer build above the door in the kitchen, as it would be out of place.
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theleastofthese said:
Please just let women decorate the homes, we enjoy it and don't want all of the men's stuff laying around the common living areas. Women take pride in how their homes look. How insecure do you have to be to make a power struggle out of decorating ideas :rolleyes:
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The most obvious being to simply hand the computer to the wife and say "this is important to me and needs to be displayed somewhere, please put it where you think works best". Problem solved.
 
There's no need to assert that you have authority over the entire home during a question that was specifically related to someone else's "man cave." And I find it quite funny that many of the men on here love to boast about women thriving in their traditional roles until it comes to letting them do something that comes naturally to them, you know, like decorating the home...the one that they spend the majority of the time taking care of.
 
theleastofthese said:
There's no need to assert that you have authority over the entire home during a question that was specifically related to someone else's "man cave."
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Man caves are normally where men are “allowed” license to have things. That’s what we’re rejecting.
theleastofthese said:
And I find it quite funny that many of the men on here love to boast about women thriving in their traditional roles until it comes to letting them do something that comes naturally to them, you know, like decorating the home...the one that they spend the majority of the time taking care of.
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You don’t find it funny. But I do find it funny it would trigger someone who knows nothing about how our homes are decorated. My wife enjoys herself immensely with all her decorations and painting, furniture projects, signs, banners, lamps… to all of which I say, “have fun babe, looks great” and she keeps her choices confined to the things she knows will fall within the bounds of what I like to see. (No neon green paint on ceilings for instance)

We picked dry wildflowers and grasses for dry decorating vases on one of our walks last week.

Don’t assume the worst, it… well you know the saying 😜
 
I once told a woman, who I was dating, that she was the type of woman who needed a tower in the castle to which she could invite her husband at will. Which implied that he would remain uninvited at any other time.
She took it as a compliment, it definitely wasn’t, and years later when we visited her and her new husband she showed us her froufrou bedroom. He had his own masculine style bedroom.

Having said that, I spend most of my life in a truck, a literal aluminum and plastic cave with big windows.
 
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If only some of ya'll were as enthusiastic about cooking, cleaning and laundry as you are decorating the home.
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How about if one is a wizard at one out of three?

Besides, the decoration should represent the personality of both husband and wife/wives, no?
Happily my first wife and I have the same taste.

For us it is mainly a house full of family piece antiques we inherited, the framed art and nick nacks we chose together and an explosion of children's toys etc. Intentionally boring and durable second hand couch and what not in the family room during children years.
 
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