How do you go about "coming out of the polygamy closet" for the first time? Lol. That was dumb, I know. My husband and I are having our hearts worked on by God and Lord willing one day we will be taking a second wife. My question is, What did you all do, how did you go about bringing this topic up concerning your family and friends who you kept this from? I know we will be unfriended on FB (who cares), kicked out of church (that's gonna hurt), unfriended by friends (makes me sad) but what is a good Godly smart and sensitive way to handle this?
The hardest part is ALL the questions that will arise as well. Oh boy. They are coming. I am not looking to tell people, we are hoping for a wife, but wanting people to know we do support this Godly lifestyle so that they know when the time comes and it's Gods will, it's not a huge shock to them. They already knew where we stood to begin with. I hope this all makes sense.
It seems like the most important thing you are already prepared for: you will lose people over this. The good news is that you will find out who your real friends and family are.
There is no right or wrong way to do it. It all depends on how militant you want to be for the truth. Now that you know the truth you are going to start running into the lies more and more often and it all depends on how much you want to speak up about it.
A good strategy is to ask the difficult questions. That way you do not have to have all of the answers. Simple speaking up and saying, "Where in the Bible does it actually say that?" can do a lot.
There is no denying that it is helpful to study and know the answers to the difficult questions for yourself as best as you are able. There are a number of web sites and books that have questions and answers with explanations. So study up and make the faith your own and it will be easier.
Laying low is one strategy. The downside is that if you do find someone you will have more work to do and the discussions may be more volitile than if you have discissions when it is only a theoretical possibility. You will be ahead of the game if you can have discussions with family in advance. I have been an "out" polygamy supporter for over 10 years, and I think my extended family would hardly bat an eye if I took a second wife at this point. The downside is that you will also have to deal with the fall out in advance and there is a good chance you may not ever find anyone and it will be all for nought anyway.
Anyway, how to do it specifically? You might try picking your favorite pro-polygamy meme in that meme thread and post it to facebook and then have fun dealing with the fallout. It can be helpful if you are already Facebook friends with some of the people on here, so they can comment in support if you need it.
Also, never forget that you have nothing to prove. If they say it is wrong the burden of proof is on them. You do not have to have all of the answers to convince them. They need to convince you.
Warning: A major reason why this ministry exists is to give polygamists and polygamy supporters a place to fellowship when they get dis-fellowshipped by the mainstream. Count the cost and be ready to pay it. God bless you!
