A Main Reason why Children Rebel Against the Parents

[Dr. K.R. Allen]

"Children are like sponges," as one fella said at the last reatreat. He was exactly right. And they, the children, learn to be humble or in contrast they learn further how to rebel by the way dad and mom respond and interact with others, especially those in authority or leadership roles.

Parents who are always critical, complaining, and creating controversy will produce children who criticize them, comaplin to them, and create controversy in the home.

A father who is always or more so than not critical or complaining will produce a critical and complaining covenant woman. A covenant woman who is a mother who complains, criticizes, and sees the world through a negative lens will produce children who are also negative, critical, complaining, and confused. Then when these children grow up they will in turn produce others like that in their image.

The Bible gives a guide to all in how to overcome this. It is so simple yet profound. Yet as simple as it is too many fail to work hard at applying it.

The Bible says, "Do all things without grumbling or questioning that you may be blameless and innocent children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world" (Phil. 2:14). And it teaches us to also "honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor" (1 Peter 2:17).

Do you want to set in place a powerful force for good in your home, in your sphere of influence? Do you want to teach your children how to be honorable, respectable, and an illuminating replica of Christ Jesus, Yeshua, the Messiah?

Then walk in step with the Spirit and begin to use yours words to heal, to honor, and to help others in grace (which is defined as empowerment to live the truth). Word have a major role in training one for good or for ill (James 3).

If you are unsure how then go find someone to take you under your wing to show you how. The rewards will be exponential.

 

[Doc]

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Parenting can be a difficult and challenging venture, but at the same time can be the most rewarding and fulfilling thing we ever do. The Bible has a great deal to say about the way we can successfully raise our children to be men and women of God. The first thing we must do is teach them the truth about God's Word.

Along with loving God and being a godly example by committing ourselves to His commands, we need to heed the command of Deuteronomy 6:7-9 regarding teaching our children to do the same. This passage emphasizes the ongoing nature of such instruction. It should be done at all times—at home, on the road, at night, and in the morning. Biblical truth should be the foundation of our homes. By following the principles of these commands, we teach our children that worshiping God should be constant, not reserved for Sunday mornings or nightly prayers.

Although our children learn a great deal through direct teaching, they learn much more by watching us. This is why we must be careful in everything we do. We must first acknowledge our God-given roles. Husbands and wives are to be mutually respectful and submissive to each other (Ephesians 5:21). At the same time, God has established a line of authority to keep order. “Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God” (1 Corinthians 11:3). We know that Christ is not inferior to God, just as a wife is not inferior to her husband. God recognizes, however, that without submission to authority, there is no order. The husband's responsibility as the head of the household is to love his wife as he loves his own body, in the same sacrificial way that Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25-29).

In response to this loving leadership, it is not difficult for the wife to submit to her husband's authority (Ephesians 5:24; Colossians 3:18). Her primary responsibility is to love and respect her husband, live in wisdom and purity, and take care of the home (Titus 2:4-5). Women are naturally more nurturing than men because they were designed to be the primary caretakers of their children.

Discipline and instruction are integral parts of parenting. Proverbs 13:24 says, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” Children who grow up in undisciplined households feel unwanted and unworthy. They lack direction and self-control, and as they get older they rebel and have little or no respect for any kind of authority, including God's. “Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death” (Proverbs 19:18). At the same time, discipline must be balanced with love, or children may grow up resentful, discouraged, and rebellious (Colossians 3:21). God recognizes that discipline is painful when it is happening (Hebrews 12:11), but if followed by loving instruction, it is remarkably beneficial to the child. “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).

It is important to involve children in the church family and ministry when they are young. Regularly attend a Bible-believing church (Hebrews 10:25), allow them to see you studying the Word, and also study it with them. Discuss with them the world around them as they see it, and teach them about the glory of God through everyday life. “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Being a good parent is all about raising children who will follow your example in obeying and worshiping the Lord.

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