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Support Advice for supporting first wife in accepting polygyny.

Mojo said:
If you understand these references, then you just might be old.
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How’s about very mature?
I’m old, Jolene is not there yet.
 
Stuckinthewoods said:
Not sure if I like the direction this thread is taking... 😅
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Thread derailment is standard here. This means some of the funny memes aren't. I found that more dissapointing when I wanted a laugh than the other topic changes.....but that's just me.

How goes the adjusting for your wife?
 
Joleneakamama said:
How goes the adjusting for your wife?
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Thanks for asking! I apprechiate it. I wouldn't call it "adjusting" as much as "vehement resistance" 😅. She's definetly not on board that it is for sure biblical, or that it could possibly be for us. Things are better, though, not as much drama surrounding it all. We can talk through aspects of this without things getting quite as heated as they had for a while. That's a relief, although it is hard not being on the same page about this. We're normally on the same page about pretty much everything, so it's strange being so opposed about something. It's difficult navigating what I feel the holy spirit is revealing to me through the word while reconciling her thoughts and emotions about it all.

Thanks again for checking in!
 
Stuckinthewoods said:
Thanks for asking! I apprechiate it. I wouldn't call it "adjusting" as much as "vehement resistance" 😅. She's definetly not on board that it is for sure biblical, or that it could possibly be for us. Things are better, though, not as much drama surrounding it all. We can talk through aspects of this without things getting quite as heated as they had for a while. That's a relief, although it is hard not being on the same page about this. We're normally on the same page about pretty much everything, so it's strange being so opposed about something. It's difficult navigating what I feel the holy spirit is revealing to me through the word while reconciling her thoughts and emotions about it all.

Thanks again for checking in!
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It's a lot to adjust to. Modern life is so far removed from that 'villiage' that Sarah would have had with lots of servants and other families. Someone else a part of your 'happily ever after' is not what girls imagine....at all. It is far easier in a way when it is a real someone...not just a faceless concept.
 
Stuckinthewoods said:
...reconciling her thoughts and emotions about it all.
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And this is why it's difficult. Thoughts and emotions are very sincere and very real. But they are also very sincerely and very really wrong about this aspect of marrage. Continue to be patient because the truth of the Word is able to replace what's sincerely held but is wrong.
 
Joleneakamama said:
It's a lot to adjust to. Modern life is so far removed from that 'villiage' that Sarah would have had with lots of servants and other families. Someone else a part of your 'happily ever after' is not what girls imagine....at all. It is far easier in a way when it is a real someone...not just a faceless concept.
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Thank you for this perspective. I remember you saying that you are a first wife, correct? How long did it take you to understand and adjust to this change in mindset?
 
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