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Only The Rich Guys

frederick said:
Looking for unicorns amongst the hippos and hyenas doesn't usually bring success. Go to the places where the unicorns graze and look there. ;)
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Meh...not so interested in apparent unicorns. Will happily go with sane.

Now...if we can simply establish where it is that sane women hang about
 
Man_in_the_Middle said:
is that the ol' "get your passport boys!" saying? :-)
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Don't know of a better place to look than the States.

I know that there will be those who will say one country or another but for me it will be European or it's diaspora only and those countries simply have their heads in their fourth point of contact on plural marriage as much or more than we do as a nation.
Plus there is that whole pesky issue of how difficult it is to import a person from over seas and getting them legal status.
Been there and done that. Only to have it fail while taking more money off me than I like to think about.

Not that I am against the notion but the place where based euro girls open to plyg life are roaming about is unknown to me.
 
I know that the conversation has moved on, but I was just struck by the fact that one of the earliest, most famous, patriarchs to start a polygynous family was a homeless man.
He spent seven years labor to purchase a woman that he didn’t even want and then indebted himself for another seven years for the one that he actually wanted.
After 14 years, the only commercial asset that he owned was his future labor which he traded for livestock.

What a wonderful example for us!
 
paterfamilias said:
You entirely missed my point.
My points are generally hidden in a lot of blather and being a smart ass so I will be succinctly once.

Wooing multiple women is easy.
Loving multiple women is easier still.

The hard part is finding women open to the concept in the first place.

Finding them is literally the only impediment.
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Well, if you find way to turn hypos and hyenas into unicorn, you could be man with most descendants in future.
 
C’mon guys, there’s admittedly an awful lot of undesirable women out there, but it only takes one good woman for you to have a second wife.
Live life, become your best selves and quit whining. 1779804188980.png
Maybe not, but you will have become a better person.
 
Maddog said:
Do only rich guys have multi wives? We read of the patriarchs of old that have had many wives. Is that, or was that the norm? If not true, then can we assume that just about every man had a few ladies?
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My standard advice for men who want this life is:

#1: Get right with God. Do this life for Godly reasons and not selfish reasons.

2. Make sure your first wife is 100% on board with your plan to expand your family. Patriarchal idealism aside, your first marriage is the very foundation of your plural marriage! Make sure that you don't harm your first marriage when looking to add a plural.

3. Have a place/home where you can expand your family and not attract unwanted attention.

4. Be debt free. Debt worries kill ordinary families and if you want an extraordinary family then get the demon of debt out of your house!

5. Above all, Men: you have to be MEN to do this. You must be a leader who makes women want to follow you. Everything is riding on you. Everyone depends on you. Yes, it isn't fair. Too bad. Climbing Mount Everest isn't easy or fair and not everyone can do it. Poly marriage is not far off from climbing Mount Everest.

6. Don't be afraid to be the Man of The House. You don't need to be a dictator but you do need to be in control and by that I mean you have to first be in control of yourself.

If you can't control yourself then you will not lead the people who want to follow a good leader. People (wives and kids) chafe at dictators (see Psalm 109 and in particular 109:8).

7. Having done items one through six then you will have delivered much and you will be in a position to ask much of your wives.

But you don't get to ask everything of them before they get everything from you. That is the price of leadership. Like it or not.
 
In the polyamory world, a unicorn is bi.
Just thought I’d mention it.
 
MemeFan said:
If only there is some place Beatiful Horses Reservation.
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Guys want there to be something like a car dealership lot where they can just go and pick one out with their personal specs.
It’s more like fishing, first ya gotta find a likely spot and you still mostly get skunked.
 
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